Hi guys! Today has been good, like real good. You know when you wake up absolutely stoked on life and ready to go? Yeah, one of those days. I was worried this morning though, my nerves were shooting through the roof, and stomach all knotted up. I was worried because I had a long day ahead of me and I wanted to continue to feel as good as I felt. Then it hit me. WHY am I wasting my time worrying about staying positive? Doesn’t that defeat the purpose? Yes. Yes, it does.
When I first began the long process of fixing my problems, my number one goal was balance. I told everyone I just want balance in my life. I told my parents, my therapist, my doctor, my friends, and myself. Numerous times. I wanted to believe it. I wanted to believe it was possible.
After all, unplanned snacks are always nice.
The thing about setting a goal as vague as balance though, is that everyone has a different definition. What might be balance for me could be something totally different for you.
For ME, balance is health. Balance is happiness. Balance is having good days, and bad days, but accepting them both and moving on. Balance is not obsessing or worrying. It’s being able to do something totally unplanned and out of character. Balance is taking each day, each moment, as they come. Balance is sanity.
At first I found that I was obsessing over creating balance. I wanted so bad for it to be real life that I constantly was trying to make sure everything I did, every move I made was that to ensure I’d be living a balanced life. Sorry Sarah, but that aint’ going to help you reach your goal. By living life in constant worry over achieving something is just creating more problems. It takes away your focus, and not to mention is extremely mentally and physically taxing. By trying to reach my goal I was actually setting myself further away from it.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s just life 😉
I have found rather than obsessing to create a balanced life, to instead just live one. Now that’s an interesting concept. Let’s discuss, shall we? If I have my definition of balance and I know what it is that I am hoping to achieve by reaching that goal… then why not just start implementing? I needed to stop over-thinking the process. Yes, some days are more “balanced” than others, but isn’t that just part of the process? I can’t be perfect. I’m not perfect, nor do I claim to be. Admitting to myself that I tend to freak out over the small stuff and obsessively control everything was one of the biggest steps I’ve made. Now I’m just living. Living day in and day out, trying to maintain a sense of sanity but also just going with the flow. What happens happens. Some stuff is just out of my control.
Have you ever been thrown off balance by trying to create it in the first place?
Do you believe in goal setting?
Go-to unplanned snack? (I’m totally a fan of fruit cups, or almond butter, by the spoonful…)